The modern dating is rapidly becoming complex, many people are feeling trapped in situationships and as the dating scenario gets more complicated some singles are turning to a new relationship called Boysober to avoid getting stuck in bewildering relationships. 

As the name suggests, Boysober is a term used for the practice where individuals decide to take a break from dating, situationships, exes, hook-ups and even from dating apps. The aim of Boysober trend is to detox yourself from toxic relationships and the to only focus on self-love and self-care. 

Origin of Boysober 

Boysober is gender neutral. The term was first coined by Comedian Hope Woodard, and it gained popularity on TikTok. Woodard explained the concept behind the term as the name is a misnomer, but the trend is not just for boys, it is for everyone whosever wants to focus on being single and free from romantic distractions. This trend resonated with many individuals who joined in to share their own stories and positive experiences. 

User’s experiences 

One user expressed he felt relieved after joining the trend and shared his positive experience. After some bad date experiences, he decided to be single for forever. Another user also shared the experience and said, “The peace is unbelievable”. These user expressions and their stories highlights the appeal of the relationship trend Boysober—breaking free and escaping from toxic relationships and from the need and desire for validations from others. 

What is concept behind the trend Boysober? 

The trend Boysober goes beyond dating. It encourages the individuals to stay single, to concentrate on the personal development, recovering from past and teaches how to enjoy and find happiness on their own. This method can lead to either discovering a fulfilling and satisfying relationship or achieving true self love. 

Not a New Trend but Old  

Although the term Boysober sounds like a new trend but the concept of opting to be single for self- love and self-improvement is not a new idea and concept. Few poeple get deeply hurt from break ups and chose to stay away from casual dating and focus on herself and her career. 

What are the benefits of being a Boysober? 

Engaging yourself in Boysober helps the individual to avoid and remove the stress of searching for a partner. It allows the individuals to focus on themselves and concentrate on self-improvement. The process of self-discovery and self-exploration can lead to personal growth and a better understanding of one’s needs and desires. It also fosters genuine bonds with others, paving the way for meaningful relationships, whether romantic or friendly. 

Why Is Self-Love in Relationships important? 

Self-love or loving yourself is crucial for any healthy and strong romantic relationship. When you understand valuing oneself, you can form deeper connections, stronger bonds and show respect to your partner. Self-love also gives you the strength to deal with conflicts constructively and disagreements in a positive way and maintain long lasting and strong relationships. 

Tips for Self-Love 

Be kind to yourself 

You should be kind to yourself first and treat yourself with love and understanding. You should opt to learn from your past mistakes without harsh self-criticism. 

Engage in Self-Care 

You can make a self-care routine and try to follow it which includes new or old hobbies, basic exercise and meditation. 

Set Healthy Boundaries 

You should try to set healthy boundaries and protect your time and energy on something innovative or something which is good for your self- development.  

Practice Self- Love Affirmations 

You should always use positive affirmations to yourself to reinforce self-worth. 

Surround Yourself with Positivity 

It is one of the best tips for self-love i.e., to avoid and boycott the negativity and negative people around you and only try your best to surround yourself with positive, understanding and supporting people. 

Is Happiness only Found in Romantic Relationships? 

While love and the relationships have their own importance, but they shouldn’t be the sole source happy. Spiritual Guru Sri Sri Ravi Shankar emphasizes that happiness is a decision and a choice that we make, regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not. He advised that one should accept and embrace both singlehood and marriage as individual choices that involve both fate and free will. 

Boysober provides a new and refreshing perspective on modern dating, helps in promoting self-love and personal growth. Whether it results in finding a loving partner or attaining self- fulfilment. The trend also emphasizes the significance of being happy in one’s own company.